FRANK - adj. direct; straightforward; sincere; undisguised
There are lots of people who say they’re frank. They tell anything what’s on their mind. If they don’t like the person, they never take chances of mingling with that others or as they say “being plastic”.
But is being plastic good?
On western countries, take for example United States of America , one of their main traits is being frank……a very contrasting one with that of the Filipinos. Filipinos are always considerate of what others might feel on whatever they will say. With them, being frank is telling others what think and feel in a very subtle and diplomatic way. For them, saying things in inconsiderate way is being uneducated. They think of expressing things as an action that should be civilized, ‘cause if not, it goes without saying that you’re tactless or telling things without consideration of others feelings.
Otherwise, this trait of the Filipinos has its translation of “Pakikitungo” or “Pakikipagkapwa-tao”. It is the act being civil. Whether we don’t like the person doesn’t mean we have a valid basis to be nasty with them.
But, even if, the countries in the west have this trait, sometimes, they have good reasons to be so. It’s not that really don’t consider how others might feel but its something, they think, is a way for a bad situation or experienced not to be repeated again. And it’s the good side of being frank, because sometimes the very thing to stop an aggravation from others is to utter a very unpleasant word that would strike him to the bones just to stop it. Some say that people who don’t like frank ones are afraid to hear the reality.
A thing that contradicts most with the Filipinos. They always consider others’ emotions and yet always complain! In this situation the words frankness is needed but not in rude way! Remember that we could always say whatever we like without hurting another. We could always state our grievances in the nicest way we could. This world is full of situations beyond our control and people who are not always the same as we would like them to be. We could not always let them know how we are……that we are frank and we cannot always compel them to understand us. So keep in mind that whenever we want to say anything, express it in the most tactful way we could ‘cause it’s really the best way to create and maintain a harmonious relationship with others…….
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